“Allow what is to be.” ― Joseph Rain
Why choose to let go? Releasing our burdens in our daily interactions allows us to be compassionate to ourselves.
Many times we react in a way that is counteractive to everything we’ve been trying to be. If someone cuts us off in traffic and we yell a string of profanities at that person, we then beat ourselves up for being a jerk. Rather than judge ourselves for our immediate reaction, we can let go of the temper-tantrum and the anger or disappointment. We can choose to think, “I’m sorry. I didn’t mean that. I apologize for my behavior. I take it back.”
Being mindful doesn’t equate to angelic behavior. Being mindful is becoming aware of how we are feeling as often as we can. We can acknowledge our humanity by becoming the observer of our reactions, emotions, and thoughts. We are not our anger, sadness, or depression. We are not our thoughts nor are we are bound by our emotions and thoughts.
Letting go is planting the seed of allowance. When we allow ourselves to be and experience every emotion, thought, or feeling, then it no longer has any power over us.
It takes practice and wow is it amazing when it happens! It gets easier with time. We all have the power to decide how we want to feel moment by moment.
This practice can be used during two different scenarios. The first is for everyday life. The second is for meditation.
First, during your waking hours as you’re going about your day, working, exercising, reading, surfing social media, become aware of any unwelcome feeling or emotion that rises in you.
Rather than drowning in an emotion, step back and notice the feeling. You may be familiar with the saying, “I need to get something off of my chest.” If you’ve been carrying baggage around with you and you’re able to let it go or “get it off your chest,” then you feel better. It’s very freeing. Once you start letting things go, you’ll feel lighter, happier and healthier.
Disconnect from the emotion by seeing yourself in the third-person.
“Oh, I see that [insert your name] is feeling [insert emotion].”
That’s it. Don’t judge it. Don’t assign meaning to it. Just observe it.
Let go of the emotion to more easily observe it as a bystander rather than the experiencer.
It’s okay if you find yourself slipping into the feeling of the emotion. As soon as you recognize this, return to the third-person perspective.
We want to note that feeling an emotion isn’t bad; you have emotions for a reason. Emotions are wonderful. We simply want you to recognize that you are not beholden to your emotions. You have control over how you feel moment by moment. When you get to this place consistently it is so refreshing and rewarding.
Second, if you meditate, during your meditation, practice the same technique. When quieting your mind, notice any thoughts that arise. Allow them to be there and float on by. Observe them as you would observe clouds passing by-without judgment. Continue to breathe without judging the thought or yourself for having the thought.
An easy way to release judgment is by letting go of the thought. Observe what happens when you release your grip and record it in a journal or in your notes on your phone for a week. If you can help it, wait to look at the results at the end of the week where you’ve been practicing letting go, then compare and contrast.